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Ubukhona bukaKhisimusi: Ungahlala Kanjani Uqaphele Ngamaholide

Kungase kube isikhathi esihle kakhulu sonyaka, kodwa uKhisimusi ugcwele izingcindezi ngokufanayo. U-51% wabesifazane no-35% wabesilisa bika ukuzwa ingcindezi eyengeziwe ngesikhathi samaholide. 

Ukuqaphela kungasiza ngezikhathi zokukhathazeka, futhi kuqinise isimo sakho sengqondo njengoba ungena enkathini yomlingo - nenzima kakhulu. Kuhilela "ukuzehlisa" okwamanje, futhi uvumele imicabango yakho yokukhathazeka ukuba idlule ngokubheka okungathathi hlangothi. 

Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuhlala ulawula amaholide:  


Beka ubuchwepheshe phansi

Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuphindaphinda okungapheli kwe-Home Alone - kunini futhi lapho esingabalekela khona? - kodwa kubalulekile ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi isikhathi sakho sesikrini asibandakanyi ekucindezelekeni kwamaholide.

Mhlawumbe ugxile kakhulu “ekwenzeni izinkumbulo” ngezithombe kangangokuthi uyehluleka ukuba khona njengoba zenzeka ngesikhathi sangempela. Ungase ube ufakazi - esikhundleni sokuba umhlanganyeli okhuthele - emisebenzini yakho. Noma mhlawumbe ukuthola kunzima ukusula kweminye imithwalo yemfanelo kanti uJanuwari useza phezu kwekhanda lakho. 

Lokhu akukhona nje ngawe: khumbula ukuthi amanye amalungu omndeni angase angakujabuleli ukuwaqopha evula izipho, noma ukuhlola ama-imeyili akho ngesidlo sakusihlwa sikaKhisimusi. 


Ngeke ulindeleke ukuthi unikeze ukunaka okungahlukanisiwe izinsuku zilandelana. Kunalokho, hlose ukuthola “amaphakethe” esikhathi sekhwalithi ephezulu nabantu obathandayo futhi ungekho ocingweni. Uma isenzo sincipha, thatha isikhashana ukuwohloza amandla, wenze okuthile, noma uthwebule isithombe seqembu. 


Misa ukuqhathanisa

Izinkundla zokuxhumana kulesi sikhathi sonyaka zigcwele abantu ababelana ngezipho zabo nezikhathi nababathandayo. Isikhathi esihle sokuhlola abangani bakudala - kodwa ukuqhathanisa kuvusa ikhanda ngisho nokuqukethwe okuningi kwethu. 

Khumbula ukuthi isifiso "sokuhambisana nabakwaJones" singokwemvelo. Cishe nawe kuthanda zizwe ngale ndlela ngamaholide. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungokwemvelo kangakanani, akusizi ngalutho. Ukuqhathanisa okungenampilo kungase kukushiye uzizwa unganelisekile, noma kukuholele ekuthwaleni imithwalo yemfanelo (yengqondo, esekelwe isikhathi, noma yezezimali) engaphezu kwamandla akho. 

 

Buza:

  • Lo muntu uyizuze kanjani into engiyifunayo?
  • Ukuqhathanisa kungaba usizo. Yini lena oyifelayo kulo muntu? Ingabe kukhona izinguquko ezizwakalayo ongayenza ukuze usebenzele lokhu?

    Sesikushilo lokho, impumelelo yomunye umuntu ingaba phansi kunoma iyiphi inhlanganisela yokusebenza kanzima, inhlanhla, amalungelo, izimo, noma ihaba ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Kungenzeka ukuthi awusoze walazi iqiniso ngokujula kunokuthunyelwe ku-Facebook - futhi lokho kulungile. 


  • Ingabe ibhizinisi lami?
  • Kwesinye isikhathi igama elibukhali kuwena yilo kuphela elingakukhipha emgodini wokuqhathanisa. Umuntu omaziyo ubonakala enakho konke. Manje? 

    Imicabango mayelana nempumelelo yabanye ingakwenza uzizwe ungafaneleki noma ucasuke. Vumela le micabango idlule, uyibheke njengokungathi useceleni komgwaqo ophithizelayo. Lokhu akukhona mayelana nokubukela phansi ukungazethembi kwakho - ukuqaphela kakhulu ukuhlukana kwakho futhi ukumane ukwenze.


  • Yini enginayo kulo nyaka engangiyifuna ngaphambilini?
  • Isifiso sokuvelela sidala inqubekelaphambili. Nokho, ngezinye izikhathi kulula kakhulu ukuqhubeka nokujaha umgomo olandelayo kangangokuthi awuboni ukuthi unakho konke ukuphila kwakho okudlule obuphokophele kukho.

    Ngonyaka odlule, iningi lethu lalifuna nje ukubona abantu esibathandayo bephephile futhi bejabule. Ungavumeli izimfuno ezingadingekile zibuyele phakathi.  


    Hlola kulabo abayidingayo 

    Lesi kungaba yinkathi enzima kulabo ababodwa, noma labo abahlangabezane nakho okwedlule okuletha izinkumbulo ezingakhululekile “ngenkathi yokuthakazelelwa”. 

    Thatha lesi sikhathi ukuze ufinyelele omakhelwane, amalungu omndeni akude, noma abangani olahlekelwe ukuxhumana nabo. Kungenzeka ukuthi bangene ngaphansi kwenethi nakwabanye abantu. Akudingekile ukuthi kube ukusebenza okukhulu - ikhadi, ingxoxo, noma iqoqo elisele lamakhukhi kaKhisimusi kwanele ukukhombisa ukuthi uyawacabanga.

    Nokho, ungakhishelwa ngaphandle uma bengaphonswanga yimizamo yakho. Mhlawumbe banomuzwa wokuthi uphoqeleka ngesikhathi sonyaka, noma bakhetha ukuphatha uKhisimusi ngendlela yabo. 


    Yenza ama-grounding exercises

    Ukucabangela kungase kuhleleke kakhulu - njengokuzindla - noma ungasebenzisa imisebenzi eyisisekelo phakathi nempilo yakho yansuku zonke. Lokhu kungase kube usizo ngamaholide, lapho kunomndeni ophithizelayo ekhaya lakho, noma uzwa umqondo wakho ugijima ngokushesha kunalokho ongawubamba. 

    Landela umhlahlandlela ongezansi ukuze uthole umsebenzi omfushane ohlelekile. Ungasetha isikhathi (imizuzu emi-5-10) noma ume lapho uzizwa ulungile. 


    • Ziyise endaweni ethule futhi eyimfihlo.
    • Hlala ngokunethezeka, ugcine umhlane wakho uqondile. Izandla nezinyawo zakho zingabekwa lapho uthanda khona - vele wenze isiqiniseko sokuthi usesimweni ongakwazi ukuhlala kuso isikhashana. 
    • Qaphela umzimba wakho; ukuhlobana kwayo nesihlalo sakho noma phansi. Thatha umoya omncane, ojwayelekile, ojulile futhi ubheke umuzwa walowo nalowo ephuma emzimbeni wakho. 
    • Uma ingqondo yakho izulazula, bheka lapho iya khona, kodwa zama ukungathathi hlangothi noma uvumele ingqondo yakho iqhubeke. Yibuke idlula sengathi "i-traffic" emgwaqeni ophithizelayo. Ngomusa qondisa kabusha ukunaka kwakho emuva ekugxileni emzimbeni wakho nasekuphefumuleni. 
    • Ungazami kanzima kakhulu ukuze uphumule “ngokufanelekile” - lokhu kuzobe kuphambene. 
    • Uma usulungile, noma isikhathi sakho sesiphelile, buyela endaweni yakho. 


    Ungasebenzisa futhi amasu afanayo ukukusiza esimweni esicindezelayo, noma njengesinyathelo sokuvimbela ukuze usize inhlalakahle yakho esikhathini eside. 

    Zama ukusebenzisa lawa mathiphu ohambeni, noma uma uzibona ukhungatheka: 


    • Yenza konke ongakwenza ukuze ulawule ukuphefumula kwakho, donsa umoya futhi ukhiphe kancane futhi ujule.
    • Cabangela ukuma kwakho: umuzwa wezinyawo zakho ezicathulweni zakho; isisindo sezingalo zakho. Qhubeka uphefumula futhi uzilethe kancane kancane okwamanje.
    • Uma uhamba, qaphela ukunyakaza kwakho. Ingabe uyayizwa imisipha ezinyaweni zakho ihlangana nomhlabathi? Iyiphi ingxenye ehlangana nayo kuqala?
    • Qaphela okokufaka kwezinzwa okuzungezile. Uma uziphumulele noma uhamba ngezinyawo, lokhu kungase kukupholise. Yini ongayizwa futhi uyihogele? Yini oyiqaphele ovame ukungayiboni? Ucabanga ukuthi lezi zinto zingazizwa kanjani ezandleni zakho?
    • Uma usendaweni ematasa, lokhu kungase kukucindezele. Gxila entweni eyodwa esemzimbeni futhi udale umcabango owodwa othize, ongathathi hlangothi. Kungase kube into efana nokuthi, “Ngaphandle kwenja ekhonkothayo”; "Ifoni lena enginovalo uma ngingafona kuyo". 
    • Uma ingqondo yakho izulazula, iqondise emuva ekuqapheliseni okuphakathi nendawo. Usebenzisa isifaniso sethrafikhi, imicabango yakho ingaba amabhasi - ungawabuka edlula, kodwa akudingekile ukuthi ugibele wonke. 
    • Uma usulungele ukuyeka, qala ukuvumela imicabango yakho izenzele ngokwemvelo. Thatha umoya ojulile kakhudlwana njengoba ugxilisa ukunaka kwakho kabusha. 

    Sebenzisa ngokugcwele ukukhanya kwasemini

    Ukuya emsebenzini ngobumnyama futhi ubuyela ekhaya ngobumnyama...uzwakala ujwayelekile? 

    Ukubaluleka kwesikhathi singaphandle akunakuqhathaniswa nalutho enhlalakahleni yethu. Uma unesikhathi sokuphumula phakathi nenkathi yamaholide, thatha iflaski eligcwele okuthile okufudumele bese uhamba. Izinhlelo zokusebenza eziningi zesimo sezulu zingabikezela ngokuqondile ukuthi amahora okukhanya azoba nini, ngakho-ke kulula ukuhlelela lokho kushona kwelanga kwasebusika.

    Ngenkathi uphumile, sebenzisa leli thuba ukunaka indawo okuzungezile. Yini ongayizwa? Uzizwa kanjani umzimba wakho njengoba uhamba? Ingabe kukhona okusha okubonayo?


    Ungase ube umuntu ohambahambayo ngoSuku LukaKhisimusi - ungawunqonqozi uze uzame! Kunentokozo eyinqaba ekuvukeni, ukufaka isigqoko sakho sika-Santa, nokubhekisa amabombo ezintabeni (noma ulwandle, uma unesibindi ngokwanele). Uzohlangatshezwa nama-cheery dogwalkers futhi wakhe isifiso esikhulu nakakhulu sesidlo sasemini. 


    Londoloza isikhala kokuthi “cha” 

    Izihlobo eziphushayo ziyazimema; ukungqubuzana okungakhululekile etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa; umngane waqinisekisa ukuthi izinja zabo ezinhlanu zifanele ukumenywa. Ingcindezi yokugcina wonke umuntu ejabule akufanele kuphazamisa ikhono lakho lokuba nosuku oluhle. 

    Sula umoya ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuze wonke umuntu abe nesikhathi sokuhlela ngokufanele. Uma usola ukuthi othile angase anganamatheli engxenyeni yakhe yedili, kwamukelekile ukubanikeza isikhumbuzo esimnene semingcele yakho. Cacisa futhi ucace: 


    • Ngiyaxolisa, kodwa sesivele senze izinhlelo zosuku.
    • Ngesaba ukuthi angikho eduze, kodwa ngingathanda ukukubona ku-[X].
    • Wamukelekile ukuthi uze, kodwa u-[X] naye uzoba lapho. Ngifuna ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi wonke umuntu ukhululekile ngalokho.
    • Siyabonga, kodwa singathanda ukuthola elokuthula kulo nyaka.
    • Ngizobe ngihlinzeka [X]. Wamukelekile ukuletha [Y] uma uthanda.
    • Ngeke ngikwazi ukuhlalisa u-[X]. Ngethemba ukuthi niyaqonda. 
    • Yinto engingathanda ukukhuluma ngayo ngolunye usuku. 

    Okulindelwe umphakathi ngokuvamile kusho ukuthi umthwalo wemfanelo uwela kubantu abambalwa abafanayo unyaka nonyaka. Lokhu kungase kube ngenxa yobudala, ubulili, isikhundla sezimali, noma “isikhundla” somndeni. 

    Abesifazane, ikakhulukazi, bangathathwa njengabapheki “bemvelo”, abahleli, abenzi bohlu, abathengi bezipho, amaphepha okugoqa izipho, ababhali bamakhadi, abathengi bokudla, abaxhumanisi bezenhlalo, abanakekeli bezingane, abacoshayo… Ngisho umthwalo wengqondo wokugcina abanye besendleleni ngomunye umsebenzi ongashiwongo. 

    Ngenxa yokuthi indima yakho ilindele ukuthi ubeke wonke umuntu kuqala, akusho ukuthi kufanele. Uma ungusokhaya, qiniseka ukuthi wonke umuntu udonsa isisindo sakhe, futhi ungesabi ukuphathisa umsebenzi. 

    Uma isikhathi sifika, zama ukuthi ungagxili kakhulu ngokuthi ngabe wonke umuntu uyazijabulisa yini noma uma ufeze amazambane aphelele: ukulinde unyaka wonke lokhu, futhi ufanelwe ukuba yingxenye yakho. 


    Ukucabangela kuklanyelwe ukuvikela impilo yakho, kodwa uma udonsa kanzima, funa usizo kudokotela wakho noma nini lapho kunokwenzeka khona.

    Ulayini wamaSamariya ukhululekile ukuwusebenzisa futhi unikeza isevisi yokulalela eyimfihlo. Njengenjwayelo, zizobe zivuliwe 24/7 kuwo wonke amaholide. Isevisi yombhalo ethi SHOUT (85258) iyisevisi yokuqala yamahhala yase-UK yokusekelwa yokuthumela umbhalo eyimfihlo. Ibuye ivulwe ngo-24/7 unyaka wonke futhi ngeke ivele kubhili yakho. 

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